How to be a Father

How to be a Father

Genesis 18:19For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.”

Every father knows, that parenting doesn’t have a manual; not that we would read it anyway, but we do all we can and we rise to the occasion. We use the teachings of our own fathers, and if we are wise we heed the counsel of our Father in Heaven.
Still, it is no easy task! I admire the God given “Motherly instinct” that was bestowed on my wife, as well as my own mother, since I know that I had put her through a great deal of heartache and headache growing up.
Notwithstanding, being a father has difficulties in of itself, but we can find guidance in the Word:

Proverbs 22:6 “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

Looking back, I realize that being a father is not simply about keeping the law in house, but rather to mold your child to remember and fear the Lord. That it takes a man to raise a family, but it takes a man of GOD to lead a righteous family. Nevertheless, as in Ecclesiastes “…there is a time for everything under the sun.” Which may be one of the most difficult parts of parenting all together, choosing when to discipline and when to show mercy. To that I quote:

Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Psalm 103:13As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him.”

And for the children I say:

Proverbs 4:1-4 “Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching. For I too was a son to my father, still tender, and cherished by my mother. Then he taught me, and he said to me, “Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live.”

It is no easy task keeping control of the house, and yes the father plays a role, as does the mother. They say it takes a village, well I say it takes the Body of Christ. I thank God for my father, and for the fathers in my community, and every single father who has ever sacrificed something for his children. It took me being a father to realize this, but now it’s plainly obvious that being a father is much more than raising your children, it’s about changing, reshaping, and growing ourselves so our children might follow our lead.

Prayer Suggestion: God, help me gain wisdom, courage, and humility to accept your transformation in me. So that I might become more Christ-like and lead my children by my example. Please help me remain patient and compassionate, firm and disciplined. Please bless our home and our Church and guide us according to your will. Forgive us in our transgressions and thank you for your mercy. We pray through Christ Jesus, AMEN

by Boris Shaulov

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